Comments on: How Not to Act on J-Date http://shankman.com/how-not-to-act-on-j-date/ CEO. Angel Investor. Entrepreneur. Adventurist. Wed, 08 Feb 2012 22:49:26 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 By: Abby http://shankman.com/how-not-to-act-on-j-date/comment-page-4/#comment-13734 Abby Thu, 09 Sep 2010 13:21:31 +0000 http://shankman.com/how-not-to-act-on-j-date/#comment-13734 This is hillarious! I'm married...not Jewish...but met my husband on a dating website... Here are the rules guys- Guy ALWAYS pay on the first date...regardless of how it goes. I once went on a date with a guy my age...really good fun, we went to a local pub and had a good time....I offerred to split the bill, he accepted..he was immediately put in the 'friend' basket. A real gentleman always pays on the first date and wants to make the girl feel like a lady...not a colleague...or a buddy....a princess.... That being said...my husband took me on amazing dates when we first met, but I still pay my share of the bills. Call me sexist but this is the way it works...men 'woo' women....women don't woo men...human nature! This is hillarious!
I’m married…not Jewish…but met my husband on a dating website…
Here are the rules guys-
Guy ALWAYS pay on the first date…regardless of how it goes.
I once went on a date with a guy my age…really good fun, we went to a local pub and had a good time….I offerred to split the bill, he accepted..he was immediately put in the ‘friend’ basket. A real gentleman always pays on the first date and wants to make the girl feel like a lady…not a colleague…or a buddy….a princess….

That being said…my husband took me on amazing dates when we first met, but I still pay my share of the bills.
Call me sexist but this is the way it works…men ‘woo’ women….women don’t woo men…human nature!

]]> By: Gigi Griffis: life done write » Blog Archive » Please and Flatter Your Date by Talking About the Things He Wants to Talk About http://shankman.com/how-not-to-act-on-j-date/comment-page-4/#comment-11228 Gigi Griffis: life done write » Blog Archive » Please and Flatter Your Date by Talking About the Things He Wants to Talk About Wed, 24 Feb 2010 10:48:20 +0000 http://shankman.com/how-not-to-act-on-j-date/#comment-11228 [...] you owe me $50. No, really, you owe me $50. Seriously, Lady, You Owe Me $50. HEY…ARE YOU LISTE... (thanks to Emma for this gem) ADD [...] [...] you owe me $50. No, really, you owe me $50. Seriously, Lady, You Owe Me $50. HEY…ARE YOU LISTE… (thanks to Emma for this gem) ADD [...]

]]> By: B http://shankman.com/how-not-to-act-on-j-date/comment-page-4/#comment-8479 B Mon, 01 Jun 2009 21:56:45 +0000 http://shankman.com/how-not-to-act-on-j-date/#comment-8479 I just recently started a blog all about these sorts of JDate tales! Its still in the beginning stages but seriously this is EXACTLY WHY I started it. What is wrong with people?! Thanks Shanks! I just recently started a blog all about these sorts of JDate tales! Its still in the beginning stages but seriously this is EXACTLY WHY I started it. What is wrong with people?! Thanks Shanks!

]]> By: Joe http://shankman.com/how-not-to-act-on-j-date/comment-page-4/#comment-8450 Joe Sun, 31 May 2009 16:30:28 +0000 http://shankman.com/how-not-to-act-on-j-date/#comment-8450 I think you all are being a little hard on Darren, for a sociopath he's very social. I think we should all be glad jdate has gotten his dollars, now that they've gotten his dollars where is the form to kick him out of the tribe? I think we can get it on clause 19 (inability to get tush) as well as clause 26 (inability to see himself in every other asshole in the world) Joanne, where ever you are, you acted perfectly! I think you all are being a little hard on Darren, for a sociopath he’s very social. I think we should all be glad jdate has gotten his dollars, now that they’ve gotten his dollars where is the form to kick him out of the tribe? I think we can get it on clause 19 (inability to get tush) as well as clause 26 (inability to see himself in every other asshole in the world)

Joanne, where ever you are, you acted perfectly!

]]> By: BaltoSingle http://shankman.com/how-not-to-act-on-j-date/comment-page-4/#comment-6420 BaltoSingle Mon, 12 Jan 2009 23:11:09 +0000 http://shankman.com/how-not-to-act-on-j-date/#comment-6420 I didn't bother to read all of the comments, but as a single guy, all I can say is wow. A few things... It is painfully obvious that Joanne did absolutely nothing wrong. She just didn't call back after a first date. That happens, it just means you didn't click. Move on. Happens all the time, plenty of fish in the sea. Kudos to her for offering to pay for her portion of the first date. Kudos to him for picking it up initially. WTF?!?!? to him for all of the subsequent behavior. Seriously, dude needs a therapist and medication. Lots of medication. Start with a high end anti-anxiety for the rumination and work from there. Finally, to my fellow single and especially single again guys out there... If you are interesting to talk to, you will never have to buy the first drink. Yes, I am serious, I don't remember the last time I did... And I'm not that good looking, late 30's, divorced with a kid and yet I have a very active and fun dating life when single and I am currently a relationship with a wonderful woman who is quite a bit younger than I... Learn to be funny, interesting, and most importantly, confident in yourself and who you are (not arrogant, there's a difference). The best conversations are the ones where no one feels obliged to be there because you bought them a drink or dinner or anything else... And those are the conversations that people want to continue again and again. And let's face it, that's where relationships begin, right? I didn’t bother to read all of the comments, but as a single guy, all I can say is wow.

A few things… It is painfully obvious that Joanne did absolutely nothing wrong. She just didn’t call back after a first date. That happens, it just means you didn’t click. Move on. Happens all the time, plenty of fish in the sea.

Kudos to her for offering to pay for her portion of the first date. Kudos to him for picking it up initially. WTF?!?!? to him for all of the subsequent behavior. Seriously, dude needs a therapist and medication. Lots of medication. Start with a high end anti-anxiety for the rumination and work from there.

Finally, to my fellow single and especially single again guys out there… If you are interesting to talk to, you will never have to buy the first drink. Yes, I am serious, I don’t remember the last time I did… And I’m not that good looking, late 30′s, divorced with a kid and yet I have a very active and fun dating life when single and I am currently a relationship with a wonderful woman who is quite a bit younger than I… Learn to be funny, interesting, and most importantly, confident in yourself and who you are (not arrogant, there’s a difference). The best conversations are the ones where no one feels obliged to be there because you bought them a drink or dinner or anything else… And those are the conversations that people want to continue again and again. And let’s face it, that’s where relationships begin, right?

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