Comments on: Never confuse “Being a nice guy” for “Weakness”

By: KD

KD — Sat, 31 Dec 2011 02:05:43 +0000

“Be the change you want to see in the world”

^^^^Why I am a nice guy.

Most people walk the earth like wounded animals…scared of other animals, on their toes paranoid and cynical… ready to lash out and hurt others.

And they rationalize it with “Well someone hurt me before so im just returning the favor. Im just following the rules of nature”

And they’ve created another wounded animal who will do the same, who will continue the cycle..

We cannot progress as people if we’re all scared and distrustful of one another.

So in being a nice guy, in showing that kindness, love, and care are integral foundations of my life, I hope to do my part, albeit small, in changing the world.

Will there be times where ill be hurt? Times where ill have to fight? Times where none of it will seem worth it? Sure. Happening right now matter of fact. But there’s also times where it honestly does pay off.

Ultimately “playing by the rules of nature” solves nothing and causes more hurt and pain in the long run. And plus, “being a nice guy” has shaped my worldview, my ability to see the entire picture….By discarding it, I would betray myself.

So..even when the bullcrap of the world gets to me, I can’t compromise who I am. Ever. So until the day I no longer take breath, I’m a nice guy.

By: Carol Cook

Carol Cook — Tue, 06 Dec 2011 04:42:46 +0000

Dear Peter,

I really, really needed to read this tonight. I’ve been feeling so hopelessly depressed. I am nice. I like being nice and most people appreciate my innate enthusiasm and empathy… but I seem to attract bullies as well… and I hate bullies and I can not, will not, back down. Its so great when you have allies, when you don’t have to fight alone. But I swear, as soon as one fight ends, another one rises up like a blow up Bozo. It just makes me feel so weary sometimes. But its good to read a post which makes it very clear that nice doesn’t equal kick me. I appreciate that, so much. Thanks Peter.

By: K. A. Jordan

K. A. Jordan — Sat, 27 Aug 2011 14:33:32 +0000

Many years ago, my brother-in-law worked at a Rehab – he was 5’5″ and his clients came from every walk of life.

His favorite saying was ‘Do not confuse kindness with weakness.’

He was a kind person. But he wasn’t afraid to take on the biggest or meanest and give them a ‘piece of his mind’ when required.

You just brought back a GREAT memory of him backing a big guy into a corner with a finger to big guy’s chest. It looked like a little dog taking on a bull.

Thanks for posting this.

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By: Julia Stewart

Julia Stewart — Wed, 03 Nov 2010 23:28:59 +0000

I’m like you, nice almost all of the time, until somebody crosses me in a serious way, which they do, because hey, I’m nice. I’m also that lion. Most of the time, nice gets me everything I need, so I don’t bite often, but when I do, it’s fast and hard and then it’s ‘good-bye’.

Oh and I too was teased in school. Only they called me ‘toothpick’. Nobody calls me names anymore, though!