Why Most People Are Full of Shit, and How to Not Be One of Them

By November 9, 2011Uncategorized

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Another in the series “How to be Taken Seriously.” This time, we’ll focus on not being full of shit.

I’ve got an exercise for you. For the next seven days, make a concerted effort to count how many people with whom you come in contact who end your conversation with “I’ll call you,” or “Let’s get coffee!” or “We should connect for a drink!”

In two weeks, go back and visit the list you made, and see how many of them followed up on their suggestion.

The answer will more than likely be “none.”

We live in a world where 99% of the people you meet are full of shit. It just is. It’s not up for debate, it’s not a scientific fact, it just is. I think this is the case for several reasons, but the most logical one is as follows: We all want to be thought of as “The nice guy.” Ironically, by doing this, we usually come across as full of shit, as opposed to the nice guy. If we play the nice guy role in the beginning “Call me! Happy to help!” Or “Let’s get coffee!” and then never follow up, or cancel plans, or never answer the resulting email, not only are we blowing our “nice guy” persona, but then we’re proven as even worse than a “not nice guy,” we’re proven to be full of shit. At least if you’re not nice and honest, you’re true. But being nice on the surface and never returning the call moves you from “nice” to “not nice” to “full of shit.” And that’s the worst place to be.

Others are full of shit because they only look out for themselves, feel the need to attempt to win by taking everyone else down, or simply put, just don’t care. Whatever the reason, just look around – there’s no doubt we’re living in a world full of people who are just full of shit. I’m on an Amtrak as I write this, and the guy next to me just got off his phone with a “OK, you too – Totally have to get together, no doubt, I’ll call you!” He hangs up, and under his breath, as he’s shaking his head, he mutters, “douche.”

So if that’s the case, there’s one really awesome thing you can take out of it. If everyone is full of shit, it’s never been easier to be at the top of your game and own the playing field. Think about it – It’s the same logic as the kinda-thin girl who hangs out with fat girls – By comparison, she looks hot. If everyone else spends their time disappointing everyone else, all you have to do is rise 1% above the fray, and you win it all.

So here’s how:

1) Exceed relatively low expectations. Again – We don’t expect much out of people anymore. Used to be we’d expect stellar service on all counts – Whether it was the windshield being washed when we pulled up to the gas station, or our meal being brought to our table – that’s pretty much gone nowadays.

Sure, it’s awesome to set the bar totally high and exceed it. And I’m not saying don’t do that. But focus on building your reputation piece by piece. If you don’t want to have coffee with someone, don’t suggest it as you’re saying goodbye after your first meeting. If you DO want to have coffee with someone, why not suggest a Skype call, and when you email to follow up, upgrade it to coffee. Start off low and grow quickly. It’s the easiest thing in the world to do.

2) Do “unexpected followup” daily. I have a big, big stack of business cards. Probably over 3,500, 4,000 cards. These are people I’ve met once, usually at a conference or trade show. They’re not “contacts,” per se, but they’re also not complete strangers. I keep these cards in a giant fish bowl on my desk, where people who don’t constantly worry about their weight would keep candy. Each day, I pull ten cards out, and email the people on them, just to say hi. No selling, not even that much talking about me – Just asking about them. How are they, what are they working on, etc. This keeps me “top of mind,” and does two other things: Brings some of those people from “quasi-contacts” to “clients,” and as beneficial, makes me first in their mind when someone they know asks if they know anyone who does what I do. Added bonus? I get to say hi. Nice touch.

3) Do the little things no one else does. You have any idea how many times I show up at early morning meetings with donuts? I call it “Insta-Hero.” It’s incredibly easy to be the Insta-Hero. Show up to an early morning meeting with Donuts. Make sure there’s a full bowl of candy on your desk when people come by. ALWAYS carry a pen, a stick of gum, and a lighter. (And not just for people who smoke – Lighters can act as a scissor and burn down a loose thread, among millions of other uses.) Be the one who always does the little things, and you’ll be the one people turn to when they have a budget to spend.

4) Find out what people are doing. If you had any idea on how many people I have Google Alerts, you’d call me the King of Stalking. But in fact, those alerts are one of the most helpful tools in my arsenal. Someone gets quoted? Drop a congratulatory note. Someone gets promoted? Send cookies. Someone takes a new job? Send a six pack. It’s not hard, doesn’t cost a lot, and keeps you well above the fold of mediocrity. Why? Because no one else does it. Again – When most people are full of shit, it doesn’t take that much to not be! So don’t be! Everyone wins! (Especially you!)

5) For God’s sake, if you do nothing else, just be nice! A smile goes a hell of a long way towards proving you’re not full of shit. Just by being a touch nicer – Offering to help someone put their bag in the overhead compartment, letting the obviously time-crunched person go ahead of you at Starbucks… You never know where these small, innocent acts can lead – But yo do know this – If they lead anywhere, they start off with the other person believing you’re in fact, NOT full of shit – And from there, it’s up to you to keep proving that.

Have fun. And if I missed anything, tell me in the comments.

  • Thank you for your advise , we live in a hypocritical world……..

  • Thank you for your advise , we live in a hypocritical world……..

  • crystal

    Wow you sure hit the nail on the head, Every thing you wrote is true. I am guilty of some but not all and after reading this I am sure going to try to be a better person thats not full of shit..

  • crystal

    Wow you sure hit the nail on the head, Every thing you wrote is true. I am guilty of some but not all and after reading this I am sure going to try to be a better person thats not full of shit..

  • Sam

    but wouldn’t doing all this also boost your full-of-shitness? It’s making you feel special by “not being full of shit”. I suppose being not full of shit is not caring about your “image” to other people. What do y’all think?

    • Sam killer

      I think you are full of shit Sam.

  • Sam

    but wouldn’t doing all this also boost your full-of-shitness? It’s making you feel special by “not being full of shit”. I suppose being not full of shit is not caring about your “image” to other people. What do y’all think?

  • Phil

    Yeah cos doing “nice” things to gain an edge isn’t being full of shit, is it?

    • Ryan Hackett

      “nice”? So, you’re implying the things mentioned in number 5 wern’t really nice? So, when somebody does something for you, are you like, “I’m on to you! I know what your agenda is!!”?

      • John

        No, ass hat, they’re saying going out of your way to get brownie points with everyone is about as full of shit as you can get. There is a massive difference between being a nice person and simply not being full of shit, they are not mutually inclusive of each other.

    • pain

      Yeah Phil.So what’s your philosophy?Do shit nasty things?
      That means you are full of shit pal.

  • Phil

    Yeah cos doing “nice” things to gain an edge isn’t being full of shit, is it?

    • Ryan Hackett

      “nice”? So, you’re implying the things mentioned in number 5 wern’t really nice? So, when somebody does something for you, are you like, “I’m on to you! I know what your agenda is!!”?

    • Ryan Hackett

      “nice”? So, you’re implying the things mentioned in number 5 wern’t really nice? So, when somebody does something for you, are you like, “I’m on to you! I know what your agenda is!!”?

  • cheffdaddy

    If what you are saying, Tom, is that you smell a little “shit” in some of these ideas, I would have to agree. I am all for genuine responses, genuine connections and genuine acts of kindness. If there is a pre-design to one’s behavior intended to reap a personal, financial, or professional reward, then that is not being genuine and, hence, is full of shit. The true measure of a person’s character is what they do when no one is looking and all the reward is intrinsic. Now, that said, it is equally obvious that some of our actions are outward and are noticed by others; however, it is the motive behind the action the measures the person.

  • cheffdaddy

    If what you are saying, Tom, is that you smell a little “shit” in some of these ideas, I would have to agree. I am all for genuine responses, genuine connections and genuine acts of kindness. If there is a pre-design to one’s behavior intended to reap a personal, financial, or professional reward, then that is not being genuine and, hence, is full of shit. The true measure of a person’s character is what they do when no one is looking and all the reward is intrinsic. Now, that said, it is equally obvious that some of our actions are outward and are noticed by others; however, it is the motive behind the action the measures the person.

  • Had_enough_of_shit

    it’s not that hard just being decent to another human being, if you promise something, unless something very serious comes up, just fulfill the damn promise, its a respectful thing to do, we’re supposed to be more than animals but humans today are way below worse animals, they are ordinary shit… why is it so hard to be decent and just keep your word?!!!!! Well done for the post, finally someone decent, someone who could be called a person, not a piece of shit flesh

  • Had_enough_of_shit

    it’s not that hard just being decent to another human being, if you promise something, unless something very serious comes up, just fulfill the damn promise, its a respectful thing to do, we’re supposed to be more than animals but humans today are way below worse animals, they are ordinary shit… why is it so hard to be decent and just keep your word?!!!!! Well done for the post, finally someone decent, someone who could be called a person, not a piece of shit flesh

  • I am all about “keeping it real” and telling the truth. I always try to stay true to myself, on my blog, in real life, and in social media. I can only be me; I don’t know who else to be.

  • I am all about “keeping it real” and telling the truth. I always try to stay true to myself, on my blog, in real life, and in social media. I can only be me; I don’t know who else to be.

  • Spike

    I do goods deeds all the time an Dont expect to get any benefits from doing it either.

  • Spike

    I do goods deeds all the time an Dont expect to get any benefits from doing it either.

  • Spike

    I do goods deeds all the time an Dont expect to get any benefits from doing it either.

  • Spike

    I do goods deeds all the time an Dont expect to get any benefits from doing it either.

  • Spike

    I do goods deeds all the time an Dont expect to get any benefits from doing it either.

  • joseph orlando

    Just like greeting someone by saying “How are you?” People say that to me all the time
    Would they really listen
    10 or 15 minutes while you really answer their question. Probably not!

  • joseph orlando

    Just like greeting someone by saying “How are you?” People say that to me all the time
    Would they really listen
    10 or 15 minutes while you really answer their question. Probably not!

  • joseph orlando

    Just like greeting someone by saying “How are you?” People say that to me all the time
    Would they really listen
    10 or 15 minutes while you really answer their question. Probably not!

  • joseph orlando

    Just like greeting someone by saying “How are you?” People say that to me all the time
    Would they really listen
    10 or 15 minutes while you really answer their question. Probably not!

  • joseph orlando

    Just like greeting someone by saying “How are you?” People say that to me all the time
    Would they really listen
    10 or 15 minutes while you really answer their question. Probably not!

  • me

    still just a means of extracting money from people pre planned nicety lol

  • me

    still just a means of extracting money from people pre planned nicety lol

  • me

    still just a means of extracting money from people pre planned nicety lol

  • Ryan Hackett

    It’s funny to see how these articles upset people. I think they hit a sensitive spot; truth.

  • Ryan Hackett

    It’s funny to see how these articles upset people. I think they hit a sensitive spot; truth.

  • Ryan Hackett

    It’s funny to see how these articles upset people. I think they hit a sensitive spot; truth.

  • That is why we can always trust God. He is there for us anytime, anywhere, etc. He is totally reliable. He never lets us down.

    But, people, including your own friends and family members, would disappoint you.

    I feel sorry for those who put all trust in someone. If so, expect the unexpected to happen.

    • Agnosticguy

      The bible is full of shit…:P

      • Your mom

        Ernest didn’t say one damn thing about the Bible. Go to an AA meeting, and learn what God is.

    • Dan

      Hi Ernest, But wouldn’t it be comforting to have a friend you could trust if even for a little while?

  • That is why we can always trust God. He is there for us anytime, anywhere, etc. He is totally reliable. He never lets us down.

    But, people, including your own friends and family members, would disappoint you.

    I feel sorry for those who put all trust in someone. If so, expect the unexpected to happen.

    • Agnosticguy

      The bible is full of shit…:P

      • Your mom

        Ernest didn’t say one damn thing about the Bible. Go to an AA meeting, and learn what God is.

    • Dan

      Hi Ernest, But wouldn’t it be comforting to have a friend you could trust if even for a little while?

  • That is why we can always trust God. He is there for us anytime, anywhere, etc. He is totally reliable. He never lets us down.

    But, people, including your own friends and family members, would disappoint you.

    I feel sorry for those who put all trust in someone. If so, expect the unexpected to happen.

    • Dan

      Hi Ernest, But wouldn’t it be comforting to have a friend you could trust if even for a little while?

  • That is why we can always trust God. He is there for us anytime, anywhere, etc. He is totally reliable. He never lets us down.

    But, people, including your own friends and family members, would disappoint you.

    I feel sorry for those who put all trust in someone. If so, expect the unexpected to happen.

    • Dan

      Hi Ernest, But wouldn’t it be comforting to have a friend you could trust if even for a little while?

  • That is why we can always trust God. He is there for us anytime, anywhere, etc. He is totally reliable. He never lets us down.

    But, people, including your own friends and family members, would disappoint you.

    I feel sorry for those who put all trust in someone. If so, expect the unexpected to happen.

    • Dan

      Hi Ernest, But wouldn’t it be comforting to have a friend you could trust if even for a little while?

  • That is why we can always trust God. He is there for us anytime, anywhere, etc. He is totally reliable. He never lets us down.

    But, people, including your own friends and family members, would disappoint you.

    I feel sorry for those who put all trust in someone. If so, expect the unexpected to happen.

    • Dan

      Hi Ernest, But wouldn’t it be comforting to have a friend you could trust if even for a little while?

  • Dissapointed

    Phil hits the nail on the head

  • Dissapointed

    Phil hits the nail on the head

  • Dissapointed

    Phil hits the nail on the head

  • Dissapointed

    Phil hits the nail on the head

  • Dissapointed

    Phil hits the nail on the head

  • Dissapointed

    Phil hits the nail on the head

  • Michael Flood

    We are all full of shit πŸ˜› 100%

  • Michael Flood

    We are all full of shit πŸ˜› 100%

  • Michael Flood

    We are all full of shit πŸ˜› 100%

  • Michael Flood

    We are all full of shit πŸ˜› 100%

  • Michael Flood

    We are all full of shit πŸ˜› 100%

  • Michael Flood

    We are all full of shit πŸ˜› 100%

  • Nick

    This started out good and ended as full of shit. You say to do these things to make your better than everyone else which contradicts what you said in the beginning. How about instead of doing it to be better you do it because its a nice thing to do. Not everyone should carry a lighter and call random business cards to have these people contact you when “they have a budget”. That once again is to just better yourself. How about the golden rule, do onto others as you would want done onto you. Would you wan someone to bullshit and say lets have coffee? No, so don’t do it to them. This applies for all aspects of life. Every single dilemma you could encounter is easily solved by this.

    • shankman

      Want to grab some coffee and chat, Nick? You seem pissed off – I can see how this article might have disturbed you, but should never have been annoying enough to get you into such a rant. So something else is bothering you. What is it? Want to chat about it? Can I help?

    • Nick nack

      That’s very interesting Nick.You aren’t full of shit at all.
      No.You are a solid cunt.

  • Nick

    This started out good and ended as full of shit. You say to do these things to make your better than everyone else which contradicts what you said in the beginning. How about instead of doing it to be better you do it because its a nice thing to do. Not everyone should carry a lighter and call random business cards to have these people contact you when “they have a budget”. That once again is to just better yourself. How about the golden rule, do onto others as you would want done onto you. Would you wan someone to bullshit and say lets have coffee? No, so don’t do it to them. This applies for all aspects of life. Every single dilemma you could encounter is easily solved by this.

    • shankman

      Want to grab some coffee and chat, Nick? You seem pissed off – I can see how this article might have disturbed you, but should never have been annoying enough to get you into such a rant. So something else is bothering you. What is it? Want to chat about it? Can I help?

  • Siwan

    Smiling is A “full of shit” action in my opinion pretty much 99% of the time, good interesting post though.

  • Siwan

    Smiling is A “full of shit” action in my opinion pretty much 99% of the time, good interesting post though.

  • Siwan

    Smiling is A “full of shit” action in my opinion pretty much 99% of the time, good interesting post though.

  • Siwan

    Smiling is A “full of shit” action in my opinion pretty much 99% of the time, good interesting post though.

  • Siwan

    Smiling is A “full of shit” action in my opinion pretty much 99% of the time, good interesting post though.

  • Siwan

    Smiling is A “full of shit” action in my opinion pretty much 99% of the time, good interesting post though.

  • Chub

    I don’t know how to do coffee. What happens?

  • Chub

    I don’t know how to do coffee. What happens?

  • Dave

    People are inherently shit from the inside out. Only decent people try not to be the shit that they are and sometimes succeed! Not often though. Humans are the vermin of the earth and without them the world would be a great place. Humans turn it to shit

    • Peter Vujin

      I’m naturally good, I can’t even imagine that most are shit. But, they are.

    • Peter Vujin

      I’m naturally good, I can’t even imagine that most are shit. But, they are.

    • Peter Vujin

      I’m naturally good, I can’t even imagine that most are shit. But, they are.

    • FullofSh**t

      Dave is actually a battery farmed chicken and so his comments should be taken on board but put in context.

  • Tea

    Just be yourself, no need to kiss up

  • Si Bur

    I’ve been doing the above list and more for years, always went above and beyond, helped people when they had no one, constantly tried to keep in contact with people, organize lovely events for them, pick them up thoughtful gifts to let them know I care. What did I get in return? Treated like shit, stolen from, my credit ruined, heart broken and simply told they don’t care about our friendship. Being a great person was rewarding 50years ago, people have degenerated into pure selfishness since then. If you don’t enjoy being fucked over constantly, lied to and used, then develop a thick skin and learn to become an asshole. It’s the only way to survive without being everyones doormat and constantly being reduced to tears while wondering ‘why? I was good to them. why would they do this to me?’. Family is no different, most of the time they’re worse than anyone else.

    • Lily Abril

      I agree with you and what you posted

      • FullofSh**t

        Jees your lives are sunny.

    • Flippin Swift

      Si Bur, you’re my hero glad you have made this comment. As I’ve been in your situation more then once and it does hurt. Hence why I enjoy being a eccentric hermit in my hood.

  • I absolutely love this article and have shared it dozens of times with my staff, my coworkers, my friends. It’s life-changing.

  • Rich

    It’s not that you give a shit,you are full of shit.

  • Joe

    No Anne.The whole point of the article is that 99% of people are shit,remember?
    Obviously the other 1% miss the point?

  • lesbian

    Thanks dawn,us wimmin should stick together as we ate not full of shit like men,

    • Peter Vujin

      You should be gassed.

    • Peter Vujin

      You should be gassed.

    • Peter Vujin

      You should be gassed.

    • Schanrfengargle

      “Full of shit like men” Two wrongs don’t make a right. Obviously you are a prejudging men. Regardless, the author of this forum/blog whatever you would call it, has made a true statement. Girls will hang out with less good looking ones to stand out from the crowd. I’m not saying that they all do that, but it does happen. People are pretty ruthless like that. People will exploit and treat others like shit. I don’t do that, but others do. So don’t judge all of us men like that, or you are simply as I stated about. The kind of person that treats others like shit based on one opinion of a bloggers statement.

  • Dustin

    You said be nice? That’s not human nature we hate each other. We destroy. People are full of shit because they are so afraid of everything. Who they are. What they want. Death. What others think, People are full of shit not to deceive others but themselves. Most people can’t accept what they are.

  • patrick

    yeah not a fan of a lot of the comments assuming that reaping benefits of kindness means that you weren’t being kind at all and you’re just full of shit. Being nice is being nice full stop. I don’t get why you guys think you have to deny any good that comes of it to be considered not full of shit? I mean when someone brings donuts to a meeting do you actually think ‘god he/she’s so full of shit trying to win me over with donuts’ no you fuckin dont you eat em and feel happier because they did you a service so shut up and sit down.

  • Rico

    If you have to follow a few steps just to prove you’re not full of shit, then chances are you probably are full of shit. Nobody’s perfect and at this point who cares what people think. If people think you are full of shit then so be it. Being nice all the time in this society will get u ran over!

  • Peter Vujin

    What offensive (!) remark?

  • Peter Vujin

    What offensive (!) remark?

  • Peter Vujin

    What offensive (!) remark?

  • Jesse Ridley Jr.

    Why pch is fos

  • Jesse Ridley Jr.

    Why pch is fos

  • ugh

    you seem pleasant

  • ugh

    you seem pleasant

  • ugh

    you seem pleasant

  • ugh

    you seem pleasant

  • ugh

    you seem pleasant

  • ugh

    you seem pleasant

  • Schnarfengargle

    Man, that’s a very fair point my friend. Sometimes you just can’t be assed. πŸ˜›

  • ocdhd

    P.S. I read every post from everyone else who is Full of Shit! —- Syke! I’m just full of shit!

  • sma

    at 66 yrs…2 tours in vietnam…chemo…37 radiation treatments 16 yrs ago…70% va disability..part time job…ptsd…i dont believe anything i hear…most of anything i see…and none of the bullshit i see.

  • guano girl

    When I think of people who are FOS, I think of the guy who sits next to me at work. He’s always inflating his achievements, e.g., telling co-workers that he walks 70-80 miles per week, and that he’s lost 50 pounds recently. (It would be more believable if he weren’t borderline obese.)
    This is a little different from what you’re talking about, but this sort of FOS is also annoying. He leads with a “look-at-me, I’m so amazing” attitude, so I’ve come assume that–whatever he says–cut it by one-third to one-half. When he tells me a story about (for example) the arduous “7 mile walk” he did from Point A to Point B yesterday, does he really think I can’t check it on Google Earth (and, gee, it’s actually no more than 4 miles)? This crap is insulting–it insinuates you’re too stupid to recognize their BS…that or they *believe* the BS they spout. Maybe I should feel sorry for someone like this, that he feels the need to make himself look better. Too bad the strategy backfires…

  • guano girl

    When I think of people who are FOS, I think of the guy who sits next to me at work. He’s always inflating his achievements, e.g., telling co-workers that he walks 70-80 miles per week, and that he’s lost 50 pounds recently. (It would be more believable if he weren’t borderline obese.)
    This is a little different from what you’re talking about, but this sort of FOS is also annoying. He leads with a “look-at-me, I’m so amazing” attitude, so I’ve come assume that–whatever he says–cut it by one-third to one-half. When he tells me a story about (for example) the arduous “7 mile walk” he did from Point A to Point B yesterday, does he really think I can’t check it on Google Earth (and, gee, it’s actually no more than 4 miles)? This crap is insulting–it insinuates you’re too stupid to recognize their BS…that or they *believe* the BS they spout. Maybe I should feel sorry for someone like this, that he feels the need to make himself look better. Too bad the strategy backfires…

  • guano girl

    When I think of people who are FOS, I think of the guy who sits next to me at work. He’s always inflating his achievements, e.g., telling co-workers that he walks 70-80 miles per week, and that he’s lost 50 pounds recently. (It would be more believable if he weren’t borderline obese.)
    This is a little different from what you’re talking about, but this sort of FOS is also annoying. He leads with a “look-at-me, I’m so amazing” attitude, so I’ve come assume that–whatever he says–cut it by one-third to one-half. When he tells me a story about (for example) the arduous “7 mile walk” he did from Point A to Point B yesterday, does he really think I can’t check it on Google Earth (and, gee, it’s actually no more than 4 miles)? This crap is insulting–it insinuates you’re too stupid to recognize their BS…that or they *believe* the BS they spout. Maybe I should feel sorry for someone like this, that he feels the need to make himself look better. Too bad the strategy backfires…

  • Dan

    You probably think that someone else should pay for your birth control pills.

  • Dan

    You probably think that someone else should pay for your birth control pills.

  • Dan

    You probably think that someone else should pay for your birth control pills.

  • DynasPita

    What people need to get through their heads is that this post was not about being a better human being…it’s about how to get ahead of others by doing things to keep potential clients or people of interest’s memory of you positive.

  • DynasPita

    What people need to get through their heads is that this post was not about being a better human being…it’s about how to get ahead of others by doing things to keep potential clients or people of interest’s memory of you positive.

  • DynasPita

    What people need to get through their heads is that this post was not about being a better human being…it’s about how to get ahead of others by doing things to keep potential clients or people of interest’s memory of you positive.

  • DynasPita

    What people need to get through their heads is that this post was not about being a better human being…it’s about how to get ahead of others by doing things to keep potential clients or people of interest’s memory of you positive.

  • DynasPita

    What people need to get through their heads is that this post was not about being a better human being…it’s about how to get ahead of others by doing things to keep potential clients or people of interest’s memory of you positive.

  • The Thinker

    This is a very interesting topic. Frankly people are struggling in an economy that hasn’t been this challenging since the 1930’s depression. So people are full of shit because everyone is trying to survive in this rat race of life. Often in the past when people like my self have been sincere I have gotten screwed so it made me a little biased and jaded toward humanity. I am not proud of this but I am being honest. Can anyone relate to this.

  • The Thinker

    I have also worked in an environment with back stabbers and have been honest and not phony only to get fired because I called them out on their bs and let them know I didn’t like them. So it seems like being phony is necessary to survive.

  • xkale

    This article is full of shit. I’m sorry nobody got the irony πŸ™‚

  • I love this article!

    I was introduced to it years ago as required reading for a management meeting, and the lessons have stuck with me ever since. I share it with people whenever given the opportunity!

    Thanks for the wisdom and keep up the great work!

    -Aaron

  • spoofman

    You’re all nice in a mental way ( premeditated, like a con artist). Not from the heart, natural. Makes you even more full of shit than anyone!

    • slutlover

      Ha ha fuck everybody!!

  • FullofSh**t

    Amber, come on! Is that all you want to be, an advocate for clients? Does that mean professionally that you’ll say whatever makes your client look good no matter about the reality of your client? The thing that really makes you stand out for others is being genuine and not full of shite – people are not that stupid – they can tell the difference between advocating for a client and real feelings and thoughts. Gosh – your comment depressed me. It’s like someone took a person, melted them down and then reprinted them in corporate colours. Don’t mean to pick on you – in fact I don’t mean to be mean at all – but come on. Forget about pulling someone’s business card out of a bowl and just be genuinely interested in other people – if some fakey hands you a business card – bin it – if someone really interesting and inspiring meets you and wants to work with you go out for a coffee and talk to them. In fact the whole artcle was cool until the point where the top tips had us strategising about not being full of shit. I’m in the media business and there is a ton of shit talked – but its people just getting a bit excited and then they look at their diaries and go ‘oops’ I cant have coffees with all these people. I think just stay genuine and people will appreciate that. Yay!

    • FullofSh**t

      I realsie that I’m three years too late for this conversation lol. I hope the career is going well

  • Lala

    People are full of shit because the truth may not be their first priority. Everyone is full of shit. It’s part of human nature. Some people who tend to be more self-aware modify their behaviors to reflect their authentic self. But really, life is easier when you simpy accept that people are full of it. It leads to lower expectations.

  • Steven

    Agreed, people are full of shit…

    I was the nice guy, I used to help people that were in need (like money), every time I went over to see them rather than them putting in effort to see me, I was always nice to people regardless and even stood by those being bullied, I was nice to most people. I try to help people by giving them advice but of course there way was always the best, they’d never listen and always follow the crowd, they were poor.

    I just feel that being not full of shit doesn’t really get you anywhere, I’ll go to an interview and be honest, they won’t accept me in. Being the nice guy just leads to disappointment because regardless of what you do people won’t change, the world won’t change politically because everyone’s in it for themselves and their group, unfortunately in this world it’s a rat race, few people can get their heads around themselves, they just want what’s best for them and their families, without a damn about the poor, homeless, people struggling. And I find that even they are full of shit too. People are quick to insult and judge without any prethought into what they’re saying, I think being full of shit goes hand in hand with being dumb.

    And of course, when you point them out on this they’ll make out as if you’re the problem, basically they think they don’t need to change as they’re fine now, they don’t change and never will.

    • Beakman

      Your statement reads as judgmental and self righteous. It’s important to acknowledge the validity of another’s point of view, especially in regards to their own life. What we like to think of as objective advice is likely to be colored by our own experiences, and may not be the sage wisdom that we believe it to be; or it could be great advice, but everyone has their own inner life, so our advice may or may not fit their framework. That’s just part of humanity. You said that you were nice, then proceeded to mildly insult anyone who has ever rejected your advice. Advice is meant to offer another perspective or option, not stroke the advisors ego. Maybe it’s time to call into question your true level of bullshit?

      I think that real the trouble stems for being inauthentic. Authentically nice people (Ellen Degeneres) can thrive on their niceness, and assholes can thrive on their assholery (Howard Stern). Those people are being who they naturally are. Being nice doesn’t mean being a doormat, as that sort of niceness is about people pleasing, and people pleasing is (oddly enough) about self.

      Again, it sounds as though you have a hard time accepting people who are not you. You seem to hold yourself in pretty high regard– self esteem is great– but self righteousness does not translate into nice. I cannot call myself nice. I’ll hold a door and the like, even go out of my way to help, but I’m pretty pissed at the world. I think that most of us are selfish, absent mindedness pisses me off, I prefer to be away in nature where it’s peaceful, and I have a hard time wrapping my head around why we exist. I’ll admit that this also screams of unwarranted self righteousness. I love humanity the way that a pain in the ass loves a pain in the ass sibling: They’re a piece of shit, but so are you. You feel an obligation to love them because you ARE family.

      It feels great to acknowledge when you’re full of shit. It opens up a whole new freedom of self, and leads to deeper authenticity.

      • Beakman

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  • Mark Grey

    Every morning I wake up and I’m full of shit. Cup of coffee, scratch my ass and after a visit to the men’s room I’m clean and light on my feet again.

  • Anonymous

    I saw that many people are full of shit not because they wanted to act nice, but because they bully people, back stab people, take advantage of other people, and don’t care about other people at all. No heart, no conscience, cold blooded, sugar face, black inside. They claim they have the rights to this and that, and take no responsibility or if it is their obligation, avoid it (one example is more than 70%, 80% of people don’t even flush the toilet in a public restroom). Some people smile, but only as a “technique” to get what they want.

  • Werdna

    Just be ourselves and ignored those people who give us shit! What goes around comes around ya!

  • Trenton

    You have to lie to people to protect your self 99 percent of people are evil. Nobody cares about any one but there self.

  • Don Christian

    Life is one BIG BULLSHIT SHOW!!
    no one tells the fucking truth! Everybody lies!

    life is like a card game, no one wants to show you thier hand until tney need to crush you, ever ask some one a question and you notice they pause for a second to think of what they want to say?…

    it’s because they are thinking, is it a good idea to give up thier hand now?

    LOL
    it’s funny try it, you will notice that, everythig is like one big fucking card game, specially when you do business,

    ever wonnder why the fucker your talking to pauses briefly before he answers you?
    he/she is trying to figure out if the the honest answer is a good idea,
    every one is full of shit, remember that everybody lies.

    these fuckers arn’t thinking about your question to give you the most honest answer, NO!
    They are thinking weather or not the truth is in thier best interest.
    Believe it!!!
    And that is so true when it comes to wealthy business, and politicians
    especially politicians, politicians, are the lowest scumb pecies of shit you could ever run into, and hey if your marired to one, you can be sure that fucker has cheated on you one time or another or still is, that is what they do best, dishonesty!! They got a masters degree in Dishonesty! they probably scored a 3.99 grade avarage in that subject.. that’s why people love texting and chatting because they can take the time to come up with their best lies & BS to hand out to you, this is where they craft there best all time work of art Bull Shit! lol

  • Mr_Cryptic

    Is anyone still reading this thing? I found it by random accident.

  • Wendy Hartmann

    yeah and you’re still full of shit and i’m not one of them

  • blindanddumb

    if your feeling bad about it go read bukowski

  • ZFORCE814

    Spot on… My bag always had a lighter, needle and thread, a knife, first aid kit, wipes, battery operated phone charger, hand sanitizer, and 6 breakfast bars… And my desk always had candies, and I would bring donuts or Greek homemade cookies often… Yes… Being responsible, being respectful, being dressed clean and being groomed, and knowing when to hold your tongue at the work place goes a long way… This way, when you have something to say at a critical point more people will pay attention…

  • Caleb Donley

    I just don’t give a shit.

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